Cop who is married

The law recognizes you as two separate entities. So what is an antenuptial contract? Antenuptial contract without accrual Antenuptial contract with accrual. ANC without accrual Assets acquired before or during the marriage remain separate throughout the course of the marriage.

Assets are not shared and each partner has a separate estate. Married with Children Wiki Explore. MWC Spinoffs. Forum Recent blog posts. Explore Wikis Community Central. Register Don't have an account? Officer Dan. I try very hard to monitor what I say on public social media with regard to any polarizing opinions I may have, as people may assume my opinion as his. Police officers must be impartial in their dealings with the public and I would loathe for anything I say on social media to come back and bite him on the arse.

My private social media is my own space to be me, but even then I try to be cautious stop laughing, people who know me, I DO try! The example I gave of my behavior affecting him in one of my earlier policewifelife posts is about six months after Mr. Point Five and I had met. He had just started at the academy and I had just handed my driver's license in for three months as I had accumulated one point too many.

It was the first Saturday afterwards and I grabbed my keys to duck down to our local Coles which were literally m at the bottom of our street. Hubby looked at me, dumbstruck.

What on earth do you think you are doing? I explained that the car needed a run and we needed groceries. But you have no license he says. Well, duh I said, rolling my eyes, I'll drive carefully won't I? No, he said firmly, you won't and he took the keys off me.

I think this was our first major barny and I yelled and screamed at him that I was a grown and independent woman. I was fuming that he was treating me like a child. After I had settled down, we sat together and he explained that because I now live with a police officer who is aware of all my actions, my making decisions like that could very well not just cause ME severe consequences, but could also cost him his career and livelihood.

I honestly had never considered it from the point of view that with the knowledge of what I was doing, he would be put between a rock and a very hard place with severe ramifications for him at one end. It was then I realized that not only was my husband to be a police officer, but exactly what that meant to me, as his wife, and how I must now behave in a much more mature fashion and take responsibility for his job as well as my actions. My poor choices were no longer my own to make and from then on he drove me to Coles every weekend for three months.

I mean, a judge or a politician would be frowned upon if they were aware of their partner behaving in such a manner but a police officer stands to lose his job and his career. It's a rough gig. I am reminded of a quote from "Top Gun" where Maverick is getting ripped a new one by Stinger: "You need to be doing it better, and cleaner than the other guy. Now what is it with you? I have not lost a single point since I met hubby now, and you really need to watch your driving as a police spouse, especially in a small town.

You will be held accountable and be crucified by your peers if you step out of line on that one. Trust me. Accept that the job is dangerous. Try not to worry. I know it's hard when the only words you manage to overhear on that 2 a. They have the training and the tools to come home alive. When they get called out to god-awful jobs, they need to know that they can rely on you to hold down the fort, so to speak, that you aren't at home worried sick about them and falling apart.

You need to have their back; have their six at home. Be their rock. A depressing fact is you could also likely lose your police spouse to suicide in addition to whatever dangers they may encounter in their line of work. Something to think about.

Perhaps not to tell you all the ins and outs of the job, but how they are feeling and how they are coping. Encourage them to debrief their emotions and be a safe harbor to do so. They may not be able to tell you many details, but they will appreciate the emotional support.

Embrace your new blue family. The camaraderie among the officers and their families is amazing. Soak it in and enjoy. It's like making friends most places; some you will click with better than others but the underlying unity is there.