Why do women like tango

It was also forbidden during the day to say hello to a person whom you know from milongas. Visiting milongas was not considered a good habit for respected people.

So, let me try, with caution, to say few things about what is it that makes tango dangerous. What can make it romantic, sensual or even a sexual experience.

Tango is personal in many ways. First of all, when you dance any dance, you express who you are. You can learn about personality of a dancer just by the way they move. Since there are no standards on how to move, this is even more obvious in social tango: the way people do things is very personal. Second, when you dance — you open to the world. You are also open to the person you dance with. Tango is intimate: it can reveal your secrets and emotions you hide even from yourself.

Your partner can sometimes help you open even more than you expected. This is one of the reasons why dancing with different people feels different. Some, even with poor technical skills or musicality, can feel very good — opposite to others with rich technical repertoire. Tango is personal and it does matter who is your partner. We are rarely intimate with people out of romantic or sexual context.

This is why many people feel the level of intimacy in tango to be something sexual or romantic. The dance is a medium. It provides an environment, means and rules by which people can show what they feel and think.

The content we put in the dance depends on us. It takes two to tango! If you put tango on trial for being passionate, dirty and promiscuous — your accusations are going to a wrong address. You cannot blame the gun for a murder. If you want to see passion, dirtiness and promiscuity, you should turn your eyes to the people that dance. They give the meaning and content to the dance. Tango becomes what it is because of the souls opening to each other — their content becomes the content of the dance.

Of course, every form is tightly connected to its content. Writers write novels to tell stories and poems to express subtle feelings. People use cards to invite on weddings and a telephone conversation to arrange meetings. And, of course — people dance salsa to have crazy night and tango to have passionate and warm embrace. Dancers and what they have in their hearts decides what will be the content.

Do you like reading my articles? If you do please consider a small contribution to the existence of this blog. From my heart to yours! Special gifts for my supporters Securely processed via PayPal. Tango makes people open to each other. While this may not be all-encompassing, perhaps it is this emotionality that draws women to dance the tango. It is a dance that is more than just a display of technique or flourishes. Rather, it is a dance made beautiful by the connections it fosters within an individual and the world around them.

Unlike other dances, it does not rely on choreography, memorization, or competition. No longer are these introspective concepts monopolized by a patriarchal social structure. Thus, many women become drawn to the mystery of tango as they search for meaning and purpose, whether this pertains to their career, personal life, spirituality, or other aspects of their individuality.

As such, many women have signed up for beginner tango classes and have even gone so far as to emigrate to Buenos Aires to dance the tango in its birthplace. What women love about the tango can be different things and can be any of the following:. Strong ladies, beautiful ladies, ladies who know their ways - at Ultimate Tango School of Dance. It has, by now, become common knowledge that any physical activity helps lower stress levels and heightens feel-good hormones.

Neither do I know of any other dance where just walking with someone in the embrace can feel and look so good. It's a dance that just keeps giving. Simply put, women dance the tango because it gives them joy. There are many ways to express oneself artistically, and dance is certainly one of them. While all these can be communicated verbally or through writing, there are instances wherein some people can only articulate such profound emotions through dance.

Even the attire of tango is a form of self-expression, especially for women. Back in the late s, when tango reached the elite of Paris, London, and New York, women began to break cultural norms by dressing less conventionally and more like how the tangueras did.

The joy we feel over newfound love, the determination we have in the face of great sorrow or adversity, the passionate fire of our youth, and the peacefulness of our softer and more graceful years — maybe they are never expressed more fully …. We all want to be understood, and if we could truly speak the words that describe our feelings, how deep and powerful they would surely be.

You'll still be pigeonholed. The people who want meaningful relationships will avoid you. The ones who don't avoid you won't want meaningful relationships. There are exceptions, but in my eight years in the tango community, I could count them on one hand. I have a male friend who moved here from away and wanted to meet women.

He studied tango to do so. He was serious about learning, and not inappropriate. He hired a good teacher and became fairly skilled as part of his strategy to find a partner. And the instant he met his now-wife yes, at tango , both of them quit tango. I have a female friend who wanted to meet men. She did the same thing as my male friend. As soon as she met a guy, she dropped her lessons, dropped the milonga, and went off to be in a couple.

She, too, wasn't bad at tango, but that turned out to be because she knew guys wouldn't be attracted to a girl who was a lousy, awkward dancer. Despite what I said so far, this is true. It's easier for women to meet men and men to meet women at an activity where, traditionally, women and men dance together in a close hug. The thing is, though, you're unlikely to make it work if you're a bad dancer; you have to cross the battlefield of learning how to dance, which isn't a sexy one.

And even if you do that, you're unlikely to make it work if you're too obviously looking. Of course, I had two friends do just that — but they both just dropped tango cold, which seems to be what happens to 9 couples in 10 who meet through tango.

Not new romantic relationships, anyway. It's a great way to meet friends and become part of a community. WhiskeyPapa said:. One of the attractions of AT is that women are provided a space in which they can reveal their femininity and sexuality without it being taken too seriously by the male—or without having to take responsibility for it. TTanguero Well-Known Member. I think if your goal is to meet women, tango has got to be the single least-efficient method on the planet.

If you think about how long it takes in time, and how much work it takes in effort, and how much money it costs in lessons, to be good enough to impress someone with your dancing, it makes no sense at all. In your situation, where you fell in love with the dance and you're hoping to meet a romantic partner as a bonus , then the equation changes. But even so, I would think it's phenomenally difficult to distinguish the sensuality and intimacy and joy and connection of the dance from any chemistry that might exist beyond it.

Even more so if you're the type of person who makes friends through tango and the nature of tango as an activity means we'll probably make more friends of the opposite sex as those are the people we spend most of our time with. I've often said I'm profoundly grateful that I didn't discover tango when I was single. There's a whole world of potential confusion and mess that I entirely escape by virtue of being in a long-term relationship and all my regular tango partners knowing that.

True story in two parts: 1. Especially at the start, tango takes a lot of hard, sometimes unrewarding work with your partner. Later on, you may ease up on the lessons or drop them entirely some people advocate that, some don't — but if you have a primary partner, you need to collaborate more closely than you ever imagined if you want tango with that person to stay fun and interesting.

In short, in the context of a couple, tango aggressively highlights the slightest inability to cooperate, the best-hidden control issues, and any differences in drive or vision between the two people. I started tango with my ex-wife, and while tango didn't break us up, it threw a light on the cracks that did.

Moral: Tango is often bad, not good, for couples. And she is in tango too, it does take two. As a mother, a lover, a friend. Her value is defined through the other. And yet, when you have your axis too, you know you are also all right on your own. For me, feeling my axis, this alignment of my body that puts me into a stable, independent and yet connected position when I dance, feels like a revelation.

I feel heaven open up. I feel powerful and smooth, connected and independent. It took me over two and a half years of consistent tango study to find my axis, in shimmers and glimmers. It's a big deal, cause for celebration. In this way, tango strikes me as quirkytogether.

It's a metaphor for quirkytogether magic. Two people who come together to connect but who are also deeply connected to themselves. That's the kind of relationship that I want. That most quirkyalones want too. A quirkytogether relationship is defined by two people who come together to share deeply, to passionately connect and stay passionately connected to themselves.

Quirkytogether is a chapter in my book, Quirkyalone and I'm sure someday it will be a book of its own. In the big picture of history, we are evolving from a world where women were not equals and relationships were constructed to support one person and that would be the man. In many parts of the world, the status quo remains. Women feel they need to have a man for social approval or even for their safety, and they still serve and obey their husbands. In the U. Yet most of us are operating according to old programming.

We are evolving new ways of being in a relationship. Quirkytogether is the new wave. Quirkytogether is an invitation to look at romantic relationships with an open mind. To create relationships that let us be who we are and support us to grow as individuals and as a couple.

Where we show up fully as who we are, and share the things we want to share out of desire and not obligation or adherence to the social scripts.